Replace Your Fear With Courage

Today’s post comes from Lauren, a lawyer from Sydney who is currently taking a break from law. Thank you, Lauren, for sharing your story with us ❤

I was sitting at my desk in my little cupboard office on the morning I published my article Why your worst fears are nothing to be afraid of. How did I have the audacity to I speak about conquering fear when it was the catalyst to my emptiness? Fear was eating me from the inside out. I had no right to even suggest that someone should leave the job that paralyzes them when that’s exactly what I couldn’t do.

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I had asked myself over and over again, why am I unfilled? I’d give myself pep talks. Pull yourself together, you’re a lawyer. So many people would kill to have this job. I couldn’t figure out why I was unhappy. There are things I love about practicing law. I love being a lawyer. But there were things that just did not sit right with me. Some days I would have preferred to be punched in the kidneys than smile my way through another corporate lunch. And I didn’t know why. They were feelings I couldn’t explain. One ordinary Thursday morning, it finally clicked for me. I realized I couldn’t answer two really important questions:

  1. Why am I here?
  2. What is my purpose?

Making up trite answers to difficult questions to you sound like you know what you’re talking about, is the name of the game in law. Overcomplicating simple concepts to dance around the truth is what lawyers do best. But when I unwrapped the question, I couldn’t think of an answer that wasn’t a blatant lie. The more I thought about it, the more I questioned my fear and what was truly holding me back. Why can’t I leave? Why shouldn’t I leave?

I started to realize that the unknown does not need to be feared, it’s a matter of perception. Right then and there, I decided that temporary unemployment, new career objectives, and a new life was nothing to fear, but everything to be excited about. Conquering fear does not require a frontal lobotomy, as I initially concluded. Instead, it requires changing your mindset and your approach. Accepting that you don’t need to have the answers right now is ok.

The sense of sheer relief and liberation that I felt when I handed in my notice and left that day was utterly euphoric. Words cannot describe the wave of inner calm that washed over me. Knowing that I didn’t have to pretend I was off to a cheese making course, Husky sled racing competitions or UN Peace Conferences to try and leave work on time was empowering.

The absence of responsibility and concern has been delightful. I have space in my head again. I can think. I can read. I can eat breakfast without drafting court documents. There is true fulfillment and happiness in courage. This life is not a permanent fix. I have plans and I have big dreams that I’m going to make happen. Having some time off without an agenda to really think about what’s important to me in life and to decide my next steps has been an invaluable experience. As a hyperactive nut, it’s been a challenge. I don’t do that ‘relax’ thing. If I’m not multitasking then I must be asleep or dead. Having 70 hours of my week back has given me a new appreciation for time and life.

If you’ve found yourself dreading going to work but feeling trapped and unable to escape your situation, my question to you is: what’s truly stopping you from overcoming your fear? That’s not living. Don’t let your fear inhibit the way you want to lead your life. I no longer sit in a little cupboard office, wishing I had the answers and the courage to do something. I still don’t have all the answers, but I have courage. There is no price you can place on fulfillment, happiness, and health. If you’re stuck, stagnant, and aching with the sense of unfulfillment, know you have the courage within you to stand up and say, I deserve more than this.

My journey has only just begun. I’d love to hear yours. Don’t be a stranger, I’d be honored to help.

Recommended read to help with your call to action: The Element: How Finding Your Passion Changes Everything, by Ken Robinson. Get it here.


Thank you so much, Lauren for sharing your experience with us. I and many others I’m sure, know all too well what that feeling is like. I’m so incredibly proud of you for having the courage to make the change you had been afraid to. I’m wishing you all you need to support you in your new journey. There’s no doubt you will be successful because if you can do so well doing something without knowing why you’re there, can you imagine what it will be like to make your dreams come true?

You can find Lauren using the social links below, just click on the icon to be redirected. Be sure to leave her some love in the comments and visit her blog.

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16 thoughts on “Replace Your Fear With Courage

    1. Lauren, what a powerful message and my goodness does it hit home. I’m currently a paralegal in the U.S. – I am at that place you were in of feeling unfulfilled and knowing that I have a totally different purpose in life. I am currently working towards building my own healing/heart centered business and am so looking forward to doing what I am truly passionate about full time. Thank you for sharing your story, it is inspiring and reminds me that I too can do it.

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      1. That’s funny, I hadn’t realized how similar her story is to yours! It’s so encouraging to see that someone in a situation so similar to yours was able to make that change! Thanks for sharing that ❤

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      2. Yes, very similar indeed. Good thing I have you as a role model to help move forward… you are truly an inspiration to me Niki. Thank you for sharing your journey and allowing space for others to do so as well.

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  1. I love this. Very inspiring. I left my very stressful job as a project manager as going into work was making me miserable. I also stopped caring about what I was doing. I somehow mustered the courage to leave, and stayed at home caring for our baby daughter. Now she’s almost 7yrs old & I don’t regret in the slightest leaving my successful career to be with her. I know that’s not for everyone, but it worked for us. Now I’m trying to build a career again, but I don’t regret a thing. I know it was the right decision for me (and her).

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    1. I know exactly what you mean. In 2013 my birthday present to myself was starting 2014 differently. I quit my job just in time to spend Christmas vacation with my daughter who was in kindergarten at the time. I started an in-home daycare and since have gone on to get certified as a life coach. I’m now doing not only what I love, but what I was meant to do! I never knew my life would be so different in such an incredible way! I don’t regret it at all. It would have been nice to have done it sooner, but I learned some valuable lessons. Wishing you all the best as you move forward ❤

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  2. I know exactly what you mean! My degree is Microbiology and for years I plodded away unhappily working in labs and being stressed out. A few years ago, I gave it all up and went into a contracting office role in pharmaceuticals. Now, I look after training there and love going to work. I’m so glad I didn’t let the fear stop me forever!

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    1. Good for you! It’s so easy to get caught up in a path we started and not know how to takes steps in another direction. Commitment, time, money, responsibility, all factor into it. In my experience, going with your gut always pays off. I’m so glad you were able to exercise everyday courage! ❤

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