Today marks my 9th year wedding anniversary! I’ll be the first to say that marriage is tough. It’s not like the romcoms that make it seem like this whimsical story of two people that meet and fit together perfectly. Even though it can be a challenge at times, it’s also pretty amazing. I’m so grateful for my partner in life and the relationship we’ve built. I thought I’d share 9 lessons I’ve learned in 9 years of marriage: Continue reading “9 Lessons I’ve Learned in 9 Years of Marriage”
I found this talk very interesting. The speaker, Esther Perel touches on some very interesting points about desire in a relationship. She mentions that any place that romanticism touches, there’s a crisis of desire. I had to watch this a few times because there are so many things to reflect on, I couldn’t take it all in at once. The question I present to you from this video is Continue reading “Love, Desire & Connection”
This video popped up on my Facebook feed this week and it reminded me of a recent conversation I had with my mom. My husband and I have been together for nearly 10 years. While I’m very fortunate to be with a wonderful person who is kind, loving, and my best friend, I’d be lying if I said it was easy. Relationships are hard work. It takes both partners giving their all, cultivating happiness, and choosing to love above all. Most days are sweet as pie but we have some that aren’t. Continue reading “Worse Than Divorce”
I was talking with my husband recently and I realized that there’s been a shift in the dynamic of our relationship over the years. Changes are to be expected because neither of us is the same person from 10 years ago. We’ve matured and grown over that time. One of the things I discovered is how the love I have for myself impacts our relationship. In the beginning, I didn’t love myself very much. I didn’t expect anything from myself or others and my standards were almost non-existent.
Relationships have always fascinated me. No two look alike, the dynamics are so different, and what works for one is catastrophic for another. I find long-term relationships especially fascinating because when you have time invested into it, you’re no longer with the same person. Sure they go by the same name and may or may not change much physically. But as time goes on, we all grow, mature, and things about us change.
Today I wanted to do a gratitude post related to relationships. This week I’m especially grateful that my husband knows how to give me that nudge when I need it most. It’s a slippery slope but over the years he’s learned how to approach it. Continue reading “What Are You Grateful For About Your Partner?”
I love to hear the beautiful things people have to say about their partner. This week I want to know something your partner has taught you about life or about yourself. Feel free to share in the comments! Happy Saturday everyone.
If you haven’t donated to the GoFundMe campaign I started, I’d love for you to consider doing so! I’ve put together the opportunity to sponsor a family for Christmas. Can I get 19 people to contribute $1 each? Click the photo below to donate.
Do you think it makes you weak or strong to be vulnerable in your relationship? Continue reading “Vulnerability- Weakness or Strength?”
Whether you’re currently in a sex-starved relationship or it’s ever experienced a sexual drought this video is a must watch.
Last Monday’s parenting post talked about quality time in a parenting relationship. I thought this would be a great topic to discuss in a relationship post as well. Quality time happens to be my primary love language which means that’s the currency my love is best received in. For me, how those I love spend their time indicates what their priorities are. In the beginning of my relationship with my husband, he regularly made deposits into my quality time account. We wanted nothing more than to spend time together. As time went on the dynamics of the relationship changed as it happens with time. We continued to have a great relationship but I felt like something was off. It wasn’t until about a year ago that I realized what it was. While we still regularly spent time together, we weren’t spending as much quality time together.